I find it so interesting that one little long weekend trip, that I wasn't even present for, can provide so much material to write about. In fact, it may take several posts!
My husband left last Friday morning for a meeting with his future employer. Or at least that is the reason that he claims he went. I contend that he went to find our dream home, or rather he went to see the dream homes that I picked out for us. All in the name of research, of course.
And that is where things begin to get complicated, as things always do when it involves family. What does any of this have to do with family? Well first, our realtor happens to be a family member (uncle) and since the process was going to take two days the parents were also going to tag along. What was I supposed to do, beg him to ignore his parents for two days? I am not heartless or entirely selfish. And the uncle is a great realtor, a valuable resource that I want to keep.
So now they know how much we are looking to spend and how big we are looking to buy. Information that I wasn't really going to share. Some of the comments I heard second-hand indicate that perhaps now we should tell them what his salary is so they can stop worrying about whether we can afford what we are looking at. Do they really think we are going to buy something that we can't afford to keep? Don't they know me?
I sent them all over the city and into the suburbs. They toured homes from 3,000 sf to 5,500 sf. They toured homes from $500,000 to $1.4 million. Incidentally, the $1.4M is way over our price range, but the interior and floor plan is exactly what I want so I had to make sure they saw it. Research:-)
My husband told me that his dad was telling him all about the trend towards smaller homes. Smaller is the new bigger! Really? I haven't seen that anywhere. Yes, I am familiar with the 200 sf apartment in NY - but I hardly call that a trend. At certainly not for families of six or more. I am painfully aware that all of the homes they saw were at least twice as large as the house they live in. But they are retired! I can see that for singles, newlyweds, urban center dwellers, empty nesters, and retirees. I hope he wasn't suggesting that we look to buy something that size!
Not that we couldn't do small, but I don't know if I could do smaller than 2,500 sf. We have done small, and are preparing to do small (that's another story). But I am not looking for a small dream house today. I'm not looking for a mega mansion, or a mini mansion, I just want a house that fits my family comfortably and gives us all a little elbow room, along with about 30 other things on the list. And maybe even one with room to take care of aging parents, or maybe not.
This is a picture that my mother in law sent me after the first day of house hunting.
Is there a hidden message? The only message I am going to take away is that housing costs have sure increased!
So is smaller bigger? Is less more? Does your dream home have a dream size?