tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post6995068251706994670..comments2023-10-25T05:48:49.540-04:00Comments on Confessions of a Doctors Wife: Is My Husband Cheating On Me?From A Doctors Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02410694740641116438noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-32476819528077521452013-11-15T18:49:18.004-05:002013-11-15T18:49:18.004-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05949698908700226305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-27339557085370415112013-11-15T18:48:35.693-05:002013-11-15T18:48:35.693-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05949698908700226305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-78877057661308475952013-10-27T19:41:52.480-04:002013-10-27T19:41:52.480-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.bradmaddoxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14839427415714509223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-21962611500913855332013-07-25T09:04:11.613-04:002013-07-25T09:04:11.613-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.infosystemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05533190233083065445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-7973398757587886132013-06-27T19:10:15.540-04:002013-06-27T19:10:15.540-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.mccarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14264030625164091772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-89791504369482570152013-06-23T10:47:12.203-04:002013-06-23T10:47:12.203-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.madam ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18050329395391755274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-7855644860204182842013-05-19T20:24:22.732-04:002013-05-19T20:24:22.732-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12101229298266892804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-79756823130391436522013-05-16T05:20:21.232-04:002013-05-16T05:20:21.232-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Uhu workhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17781384652550244497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-14764189674276591152013-04-02T15:23:08.710-04:002013-04-02T15:23:08.710-04:00Maybe you w should take the Dave Ramsey program cl...Maybe you w should take the Dave Ramsey program class, it is religious based but I took it and I'm agnostic. He has the seven baby steps to financial freedom. Baby step one:$1000 emergency fund if you don't have one. BS2: Pay off the debt starting from the smallest to the largest. BS3: Go back and fully fund your emergency fund of 6 to 8 months of savings. BS4: Starting funding your retirement. BS5:Start a fund for your children's education, BS6: Pay off your home, BS7: Give back.<br /><br />If you still have debt or do not have your EF done, you should not be buying gifts, period. Dave classes are fun because he is hilarious and it is great for a couple to do together. You can find a class near you. Check out his site and listen his radio broadcast on Fridays to hear people scream, I'M DEBT FREE!!!!!!!!!<br />The Frugal Exerciser - Sheila Simmonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13535402647615220215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-28016499016853339912013-04-02T15:14:53.381-04:002013-04-02T15:14:53.381-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.The Frugal Exerciser - Sheila Simmonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13535402647615220215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-73003688339320884132013-03-29T14:30:47.270-04:002013-03-29T14:30:47.270-04:00I think after 20 years Europe is a great way to ce...I think after 20 years Europe is a great way to celebrate. And luckily you'll have a job by then:-) It was nice to feel pampered, and also to know that I don't need them to do be happy. Somethings aren't as big of a deal as I thought they would be. Thank you.From A Doctors Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02410694740641116438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-3248978360232027792013-03-29T14:30:08.038-04:002013-03-29T14:30:08.038-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.From A Doctors Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02410694740641116438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-22611881653390207952013-03-28T20:14:26.757-04:002013-03-28T20:14:26.757-04:00I almost started crying after reading this--I felt...I almost started crying after reading this--I felt so, so happy for you (and for your husband because he's obviously been holding back for so long)! I know you didn't need all those things to be happy, but it must be so nice to feel a bit pampered and also be able to breathe knowing these purchases aren't breaking you. My husband and I have been married for almost 12 years, we have four kids, and he graduates with his MD/PhD in June. Only 6 years of residency/fellowship left! He's going into radiology so things won't be nearly as bad for us as they were for you, but I've already told him that he's taking me to Europe for our 20th wedding anniversary!Renahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06430358945808298223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-72501771249043266642013-03-28T18:16:37.230-04:002013-03-28T18:16:37.230-04:00Thank you. I don't know if I deserve that much...Thank you. I don't know if I deserve that much! I have also come to the conclusion that spending money is much easier than saving:. However, spending provides momentary happiness while savings provides lasting security. I am pretty much accustomed to delayed gratification so saving for the future is now my number 1 priority!From A Doctors Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02410694740641116438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-81479028319931959112013-03-28T18:13:09.621-04:002013-03-28T18:13:09.621-04:00I have always wondered if male spouses have simila...I have always wondered if male spouses have similar experiences being married to doctor. I suppose some things are universal. Best of luck on your journey!From A Doctors Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02410694740641116438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-28122989202875465552013-03-28T18:09:33.765-04:002013-03-28T18:09:33.765-04:00It is a hard impulse to fight and I am sure it hap...It is a hard impulse to fight and I am sure it happens to more people than will admit it. If it can happen to me, it can happen to anyone! I bought my husband a pair of polarized glasses - I never knew sunglasses could cost so much. Mine have always been $10 at Ross!From A Doctors Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02410694740641116438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-89370190795742585912013-03-28T18:06:06.490-04:002013-03-28T18:06:06.490-04:00He is amazing, and I am a very lucky woman. He has...He is amazing, and I am a very lucky woman. He has always been very generous and I should have known he wouldn't be able to help himself when he finally had the means to do what he has always wanted.From A Doctors Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02410694740641116438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-70401174481650072122013-03-28T18:03:36.725-04:002013-03-28T18:03:36.725-04:00I knew you would get a kick out of this! I am afra...I knew you would get a kick out of this! I am afraid my husband will be the same way. On another conference he went shopping at Tommy Bahama and dropped $500 on shirts. Luckily, he came to his senses on his own and returned 75% of them. I am the one worried about retiring and every time he buys something I think we are never going to save enough to have a comfortable retirement! His attitude has become what is the purpose of money if you can't enjoy it? Need to find that middle ground that makes us both happy. Doctor's wife costume - that's assuming I ever get out of the house!From A Doctors Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02410694740641116438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-47880949657266958302013-03-28T18:00:08.567-04:002013-03-28T18:00:08.567-04:00I really don't know what else he could buy! A ...I really don't know what else he could buy! A house is next on the list, but I am adamant about waiting on that purchase. Luckily he knows that I would be extremely unhappy if he went out and bought one without my approval, so I still have some control over the timing of that one. You might be surprised at the things he buys when he can:-)From A Doctors Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02410694740641116438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-84201953351721040922013-03-28T17:56:08.420-04:002013-03-28T17:56:08.420-04:00I think my husband really did need to get it out o...I think my husband really did need to get it out of his system, and I think it is out at this point. But we still need to sit down and come to some agreement on how we are going to live. I had it all figured out and assumed he would just accept it like he always has. We are entering into new territory here. The leather... it is like butter.From A Doctors Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02410694740641116438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-48673783244560941112013-03-28T17:54:28.207-04:002013-03-28T17:54:28.207-04:00I have only worn it 3 or 4 times. I usually just c...I have only worn it 3 or 4 times. I usually just carry a cell phone purse that holds my phone and DL and debit card because the extend of my outings are confined to picks up and drop offs and occasionally the grocery store. So getting used to a purse is something I will need to get used to period. I have heard "if you don't control your money it will control you" - so true!From A Doctors Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02410694740641116438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-62250377613691744742013-03-28T17:50:24.724-04:002013-03-28T17:50:24.724-04:00I worried about it too every day.... and then I ca...I worried about it too every day.... and then I caught a glimpse of why money can cause so many problems in marriages. It's not just the "not having" that causes problems it is also the "having"! That first purchase was hard. I was upset because I wanted to save, he was tired of saving and wanted to spend some. Coming to some agreement on what we would do and what the trade-offs would be for these decisions was an interesting discussion. I think we are just back on track.... and then I saw the bill for his boards this summer and thought how are we every going to get back to a normal budget when things like this keep springing up!From A Doctors Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02410694740641116438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-12884253427673433042013-03-28T15:22:13.278-04:002013-03-28T15:22:13.278-04:00I love your honesty with this post. Thanks for tha...I love your honesty with this post. Thanks for that :) I imagine it is hard to write about the greatness when you have been writing so long about the challenges. Your husband sounds like a great partner and you should feel lucky that he is thinking about BOTH of you AND your family throughout this next, exciting step. You all deserve it. <br /><br />The cheating analogy is such a great one (obviously as long as its not true)! Never thought of it from that perspective. <br /><br />XOAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12752084385261081669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-7541248630011372122013-03-28T14:19:31.779-04:002013-03-28T14:19:31.779-04:00I am so glad you shared THIS post! Makes me feel b...I am so glad you shared THIS post! Makes me feel better about my consumer debt (in residency) and continues to bring some ease of mind to me. I believe there is no way out of "treating" ones-self to the finer things in life when you work so hard for so long. My in-laws lived like paupers taking minimal loans and cooking/sewing from scratch. They went NUTS (brand new house, 2 new suburbans and 4 kids in school along with ridiculous international trips) the moment my FIL was DONE. We have decided to live a modest middle class lifestyle (aka we look like rich residents but in fact we are modest by American Middle Class standards). I bought myself TWO fancy handbags when my recent baby was born. I couldn't take the stress and I burned through quite a bit of credit in 10 minutes. Our new bad habit is we eat at fancy restaurants on date night which we do at least once if not twice a month. Our life is so stressful I order at least 2 cocktails with top shelf liquor because my gag reflex is damaged from college with the cheap stuff. No matter how you slice it when you are stressed out, living down to the wire, you will have to unleash the beast. I agree with Emma that you now have your doctor's wife costume. Wear it proudly and don't forget the fancy sunglasses. Just make sure they are polarized sunglasses or you will burn your retina's looking cute and dainty=)RezWifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02691765547531570145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575859860218981694.post-39853785084645172812013-03-28T12:06:34.328-04:002013-03-28T12:06:34.328-04:00I was smiling all through this post!!! Our experie...I was smiling all through this post!!! Our experience has been EXACTLY the same! I kid my Doc H, telling him we could never afford for him to retire. He would just sit at his computer and online shop if he was too elderly to walk the mall! <br />I'm cheap... except for shoes and handbags. You have to draw the line somewhere. ;)<br />...And you know what??? You're going to need all that stuff. It's part of the "doctor's wife" costume we don from time to time. ;)Your Doctor's Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18010888083503743747noreply@blogger.com