Oh the dilemma! To have children or not to have children while in medical school and residency? I will be the first to admit that it is hard. But I can't imagine waiting FOREVER to start a family. There are no guarantees in life. If we waited to start a family until we were done with DH training, he would be 40. Not such a big deal for a man, but as his wife I would be pregnant at 37! That seems so old. And even if we decided to wait that long who is to say we wouldn't have problems getting pregnant, or that DH would even be around more to help. After all, isn't that what we would be waiting for? Or who is to say that we would live near family to offer help and emotional support. None of us know where we will end up. Waiting to have children seems almost more risky than just having them now.
So we did. We had one during medical school and three during residency. We survived! Albeit my mental condition may be in question. And you may agree.
Why I would say DON'T WAIT!
- You are young and still have the energy that pregnancy and rearing children demand.
- Having children is a great way to bond with your spouse.
- What else are you going to do that will be as significant as raising a child?
- Having kids is like having 24/7 entertainment.
- Sure they are hard, but they are worth all the trouble.
- When you need a "pick me up" there is nothing like a hug or kiss from your own offspring.
- You'll see your husband in a completely different light.
- All this hard work now... you'll know what it is all for, right now - not later.
- Your family may come visit more often!
- They keep you from dwelling too much on the YOU and what's happening to poor YOU.
- If you can stay home, you'll always be available when your husband is.
- Your husband will appreciate what you do even more than before.